Dating sit for poeple with disabilities
After my first two experiences, I took a break from online dating and happened to meet someone the old-fashioned way.
We dated for a year but, after a highly emotional breakup, I turned back to Tinder in search of a rebound.
But when we met, it became alarmingly clear that he had never seen someone in a wheelchair before.
He kept asking me where my aide was (I don’t have one).
I often ran into that awkward moment when I’d “come out” after talking to a guy for a while, and they’d act like I had just conned them.
One memorable instance: My freshman year, when I matched with an NYU freshman who I chatted with online for a month—based on our messages, I felt there was a strong connection between us—before deciding to finally meet in person. In the days leading up to the date, I contemplated telling him about my disability.
After tossing and turning in bed for a few nights and playing out every scenario in my head involving his potential reaction to meeting me in a wheelchair, I convinced myself that I had to tell him.
When I spilled the beans, he treated me like I was a fraud and compared the situation to being catfished.
Then there was the medical school student who imagined us role-playing: I’d play the patient and he’d play the doctor.“Less is more these days, so you gotta put a hook to it,” he says.“I tell people not to overshare.”When I started using dating apps in my early college years, I chose not to mention my disability in my bio.At Soulful Encounters' disabled dating and community Web site, disabled individuals find real support, compassion, and friendship through our disabled community and disabled dating Web site.The name Soulful Encounters and the hearts logo are a constant reminder of this Web site's primary mission -- to provide a place where the medically, mentally and physically disabled can nourish their souls and awaken their hearts.