Dating a younger man advice
I’m lonely and very different, I’m eccentric, have eccentric tastes and I’m a lot more mature then most people I meet in most social settings (I’ve been regularly mistaken for 40 when I was 18) I’m also a romantic whose entire cultural upbringing utterly rejects the idea of genders freely mixing and all that cabal. I can out-argue almost anyone and I can debate exceptionally well but I’ve zero social skills that aren’t an argument, sports or one of my passions (which many people do not like) I’m regularly putting my foot in it in casual conversations and I have been told in the past that I am far far too intense.
On the plus side, most of my closest friends are all female (I do not and have not had romantic feelings for any of them) and they’re great people but they all offer conflicting advice on what my problem is.
We grow up, we figure it out, we stop doing that stuff.
It is unlikely, being as self-aware as you are now, that you will repeat those same mistakes.
Not every work created by a woman goes against this grain, obviously, since we’re all swimming in the same cultural soup. Check things off, or join a social site like Goodreads.
And hopefully you already seek out and enjoy works by women — I don’t want to insult you by saying that you don’t or that you are unaware! Reason #2: It will be fun and you’ll encounter some really good stuff you might not have sought out otherwise.
It’s difficult in the uni dorm I’m in, considering most people I meet socially are either drunk (I’m stone cold sober) or do the whole ‘one night stand’ routine which to me is appalling.
The few people I’ve really sparked with are all in relationships.
I hated the idea of feelings and I shut them out and didn’t do friends (ironically this is when I received most attention from the females).It will feel like “” The fact that you have lots of female friends is also an encouraging sign. So let’s talk about some stuff you can do differently to improve your life and your chances of meeting someone you’d like to be with.While I think you have some particular cultural stuff you’re also trying to sort out, my advice to young straight men who want to meet women is always going to be about subverting the dominant dating paradigm and the sexist culture we grow up with, and it’s always gonna run along the same lines: 1) Read books & blogs, watch films, look at art, and listen to music made by women.I was an ass, I made an incredible fool of myself, I traumatized my friends and worst of all, I hurt that poor girls feelings.She wasn’t the nicest person and took advantage of me, but I hurt her feelings and I made sure when I came to my senses that I apologized, regardless of what she’d done, I messed up.